Ahhh LinkedIn. Where would the professional world be without it? I have landed two different jobs from it. Generated tons of business contacts and direct meetings with the “right” people through it. Promoted events and services and new product launches. J’adore LinkedIn!
I have always had a policy of only connecting to people I know, work with, have done or want to do business or networking with…or on the rare occasion I have connected to people who wanted to reach out to someone in my network. But generally speaking I have emailed with, met or spoken to every single person I am connected to on LinkedIn. For that matter, that is absolutely the case with Facebook, which I never use for business and only use for my personal life – and enjoy using for funny or naughty real-time status updates so it is certainly not a place for random people. But when I moved to Bangalore in April I relaxed my policy and connected to a few executives that reached out to me on LinkedIn because I thought it would lead to fun networking and possibly making friends. haha Hmmmm… as you will see, I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer it appears. Listen to this!
The first red flag that came up was with the invite which read, verbatim:
hiya angela… how’s u doing???
I am being 100% honest when I say that until that day I had never accepted an invite from a stranger but I thought what the hell, I need to make some friends. And this guy appeared to be quite involved with lots of groups. But there was no further contact after that, though, and no invite to network but we stayed in touch with the odd comment on a status update here and there. That was…until yesterday! haha Well, yesterday after lunch my team mate Romi and I both posted two roles we need to fill on the team on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn. One is a freelance gig and the other is an entry level position on my marketing team. I posted the basic job description:
HIRING: Digital Communications Assistant for my marketing team in Bangalore. Manage our online reputation, act as primary English copywriter, community manager, coordinate PR activities, support general department needs
And I then added a comment under the status update:
“I am looking for a really sharp recent graduate!!”
Well, my recent connection – the guy who reached out to me – posted the craziest comment on the update. Well, for me it was crazy because I always support people’s posts about recruitment because it is such a positive thing in my opinion. I always “like” or “share” when appropriate to ensure maximum reach for people, because I think that what comes around, goes around and I like it when my connections do that for me. Well, apparently my new connection has a very different view of recruitment posts and the strategy behind them. He wrote:
“Really sharp? Hmmmmmmmm… usually most graduates I’ve come across are either too wacky or too dumb… finding a smart, really sharp, recent grad in Bangalore is pretty tough…”
OMG! What an ass! Haha I really was in shock. Who would see a job posting and immediately go to a place inside their head that leads to such a negative comment? What kind of life does this guy have or what kind of experiences have tainted him to such a degree that he went immediately to THAT place? Haha Dang, I have been on LinkedIn since July 22, 2005 and yesterday is the first time that I have ever seen another member try to take something positive like a job post and use it to propagate their own negativity. So I replied in kind with:
“I guess I have a much higher opinion of the amazing talent pool here than you :-)”
And from there he went on again about how I was wrong, haha (not worth posting, trust me). I left the posts as-is. Then the coolest positive messages started to appear. It was great to see people who I didn’t know come to defend the idea that our young talent in India is indeed stellar and that our recent grads are indeed prepared to contribute. Several people, actually, which I am very thankful about. I –apparently mistakenly – made an additional flippant comment about how if my new connection did that again I was going to remove him. Well, that was all my guy needed to send him over the edge and he posted a personal attack on ME. Not on the topic at hand, but all about me and my character, which I deleted because it was irrelevant to the topic at hand and, to be honest, it was ugly. He called me a jerk, insecure and basically said that I could die and he’d be happy, haha. Bad day at work, dude??? But in retrospect I rather regret deleting it because it really is so freaking funny and so unique…I mean, what is going on to make the guy generate this kind of “user generated content” with people he doesn’t even know? So here it is:
“First and foremost, Angela, no need to show attitude. In fact, people who are insensitive and quintessentially insecure, cannot stand up to comments. Secondly, every one has the right to comment as he/she feels like. Thirdly, you’re not Steve Jobs or something, so I really don’t care if you disappear from the surface of this earth. So, yeah, would be great in fact to delete you. Have come across loads of jerks in my lifetime, so quite doesn’t matter. Ciao! ”
Brilliant, right? Haha Oh, and when I went to delete him it turns out that he had deleted me just moments before. If you know me or read my blog you’ll know that I go on and on about the amazing efficiency of India and Indians so I guess this just adds to my claim that efficiency is KING here.
So what did I learn? Unless there is a real reason to connect on networking sites, don’t do it. Indian efficiency really is the best in the world. Don’t be so quick to delete – I “reacted” to that message when I should have taken a moment to think about it. And last, that I enjoy being hand-fed blog content that is a bit outside my normal “adventure in India” topics. Thanks, guy!
XOXO from Bangalore
© Angela Carson and Angela’s Adventures in Bangalore blog and photos, 2011